Well minded people often tell us that there are plenty more fish in the sea when we break up with somebody, or if we are questioning a current relationship. That may be the case, but what are the odds of finding the perfect guy for you amongst the millions of men in the world? Logically, this might seem like an insurmountable challenge and when you start to remember those dating nightmares that you have endured, you might think it is in impossible task. Through an element of preparation though, you might find it is not as difficult as this after all.

Trying to find somebody new can be a lot of fun in all reality, even though those dating nightmares may keep you up at night as you remember them. It’s all about the discovery and you cannot judge any book by its cover, but the good news is that through just one encounter you can generally make a really good assessment of what he is all about and what kind of a guy he really is.

Unfortunately there are some guys who are very egocentric out there and only want to talk about themselves, what they are, where they have been and where they are going. This kind of one-sided relationship is not for you and you should pay close attention to whether he is actually listening to you when you are talking to him or whether he is just working out what he is going to say to you next as he bores you to death.

Guys on the rebound are some of the worst type of dating nightmares you can come across. They are invariably trying to find somebody to make up for their bad feelings, depression or loneliness. How do you know that he is not going to parade you in front of his ex, just for spite?

We all need an element of organization in our lives, but we do not need to be obsessive-compulsive about it and neither should your partner. Unless you really like the thought of being micromanaged then you should run the other way if you come across someone who is always over-analyzing things, fretting about this or that or just not going with the flow. Life is too short to be too engrossed in technicalities.

Don’t be tempted to rush to judgment or to want to find out everything that you can about the guy on your first meeting. You will want to see that he is stable, his finances are okay and that you can at least have an equitable arrangement between you. You won’t be too impressed if he makes you pay for dinner the first time, will you, and while it is perfectly okay to share, you might expect him to do the right thing on this first occasion. Freeloaders are some of the worst dating nightmares as well.

Are you looking for somebody to complement your personality or do opposites attract? The chances are that you like someone who has well-rounded interests and is likely to be fun to hang around with. If your man interest has a personality of a wet mop, you would be better off staying at home in front of the TV.

In truth, finding a partner for life is not as difficult as you might think. It does not have to be a roller coaster ride as you go through ups and downs trying to find the right one. Realize that you may have several false starts and dating nightmares before you really find the right guy, but by being philosophical you will get there.

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